What is Eros?

what is eros

What is Eros?

Good question – it’s a word you may have heard, but not fully understood. We tend to feel it’s synonymous with sex.

But it’s so much more than sex!

In this episode I’m going to explain what it is – and then tell you how- and why you should reclaim it.

Reclaiming eros means becoming fully alive! Becoming a fully embodied sacred sexual being.

Life Force Energy

Eros is the life force energy essential to being human. It permeates all creation. And brings spice and joy to your life.

It is an aliveness, connectedness, wholeness. You feel it when you’re fully present. In the flow. It makes you healthy, vital and vibrant.

YouTube Video

In this quick 4 minute video, I share 2 fun tools that you can use to awaken your powerful life force energy and reclaim eros in your daily life.

Bringing Eros To Life

Excerpt From: Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid. “A Return to Eros”.

“Eros is revealed in the sound of a woman singing, the caress of a small deed of loving, or a tear quivering with tenderness. It is found in the silence of presence between close friends working side by side, or in the ecstasy of lovers screaming the name of God. Eros is when you explode in pleasure that affirms the very goodness of existence. It is when you delight in giving or receiving a gift that makes life worth living. Eros makes itself known in all genuinely felt pain and joy, anger and ecstasy, in which we enter the feeling so deeply that we come out the other side more whole and more alive. All of these fill our emptiness and enliven our days. We are no longer alienated from our own lives, living externally, wondering, “Is this all there is?” To dance with Eros is to step inside to the full glory and wonder of your life. To live and love with passion, purpose, and poignancy—to be radically alive in all the facets of our being—is what it means to live an erotic life.”

Feeling Disconnected

Have you ever felt as though you’re simply going through the motions of life? You have everything you think you ‘need’ but you feel miserable. You’re wondering if this is all there is.

The underlying problem is often that you’re not living ‘fully alive’. And that’s why you feel disappointed, dissatisfied, disconnected and empty. It’s a painful and confusing way to live.

Freud touches upon this in his psychoanalytic theory, with the drive of Eros and the opposing drive of Thanatos.

Thanatos = NOT FULLY ALIVE. Fear, loneliness, boredom, emptiness.

Eros = SO ALIVE and present. No space for doubt. A drive to create higher unity.

what is eros

Feeling Fully Alive

Sex is one expression of eros. Albeit it a compelling one. Think of the way you feel when you are turned on, in lust, fully present in sexual union. You can use this to teach yourself to become more fully alive in all aspects of your life.

You can consciously decide to allow life force energy to flow through you – in the bedroom and beyond.

Being an incredible lover has little to do with technique. But it has everything to do with being fully alive.

It is when you’re fully present in the moment – not worrying about how you look or whether you’re doing it right.

And this same presence and aliveness can be brought into your whole life.

Barriers to Eros

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. Rumi

Your subconscious barriers hold you back. And prevent the flow of life force energy.

And all you need to do is seek out those barriers and remove them – that is how you can reclaim eros!

The Power Of ‘Turn On’

A turned-on woman turns on her partner. To witness her is hugely erotic. So stop worrying that your boobs aren’t big enough, or your thighs are too big.

Focus on your pleasure, get out of your head and into your body. Get turned on!

There is so much POWER in your desire. And, trust me, being turned on is not just for the bedroom.

A turned-on woman becomes magnetic to the world around her.

How To Reclaim Eros

We’re going to dive into this in coming episodes, but here’s a great place to start.

  1. Decide to ALLOW pleasure and life force to flow through you.
  2. Open your mind to the idea this life force energy is nothing to be ashamed of. 
  3. Try this affirmation: I am an irresistible force of nature. Write it down, speak it out, often! You will literally start to rewire your brain.

Eros is yours to reclaim, so go ahead and grab it. <3

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