5. You Want To Impress Others
If you want to understand why it is so hard to say no, ask yourself if you’re afraid of showing weakness. Particularly to other women.
I get it. You want to look like you’ve got it all together. Like you have it all under control. Here’s an example list of a ‘got-it-togetherness’ that I hear from some of my friends. Yours might look totally different, but you understand where I’m going with this.
- Career on track
- Hair done daily
- House looks beautiful
- Dinner on the table at 6pm
- Kids are acing school
- Your nails look perfect
- You’re wearing designer shoes
- Fill in your blanks!
My list of ‘got-it-togetherness’, once included Bento-Box style lunches for my kids – to the extent that I ordered star-shaped-egg-moulds from China. Mental.
Now, imagine you’re trying to impress Nancy, by having everything together, when all of a sudden she drops the bombshell.
“Can’t you just put this report together for me by 3pm?”
“Won’t you just throw something together for the bake-sale tomorrow?”
You’re far too busy but are desperate to impress Nancy, so you say…”Yes!”.
Urgh! Once you free yourself from that self-imposed list of ‘got-it-togetherness’, you will find it FAR easier to say no.